Over the last couple of weeks, we have talked about what a house keeper is. You are the keeper of your house. The moral compass. You are the one who opens the door and chooses what comes in and what stays out.
If your child comes to you and says, I am a cat today, I need a litter box, what do you say and do? If your child comes to you and tells you they had seen their friend without clothes, what do you say and do? If your child comes to you and asks why someone died in one television show but is alive in another, is this cause for concern? (Many children have died because they believe this is reality. They played pretend with death and died.) Are your children free to come to you with their concerns and will you hear them, or are you on the phone scrolling? Stop, put the phone down and turn to them and hear them. Don’t challenge them, don’t judge them, but do listen. LISTENING means hearing what they are saying.
Children are byproducts of their environment, their friends, their parents, their teachers, and their experiences. Our experiences become the filter we see life through. If you hate your spouse and tell your children what a low life they are, your children will receive that information and it will be there, filtering their thoughts. If your spouse repeats that to them about you, that information will be filtering through their thoughts as well. If you are always focused on your spouses’ faults and sins, and you are worried about money, people finding out the truth about your family, hiding abuses, your children will develop their beliefs in that environment.
I am sure you can think back over your own childhood, and recall good times and bad times, and how they influenced your decisions. If your mother was constantly putting your father down and putting other men down, you may have developed a degree of disgust for men. If your parents drank and smoked, and swore a lot, chances are you think these things are normal. Even if you despised these things as a child, it is what you know, you are comfortable with because you know how to behave in these situations and can tolerate them because they are normal to you.
Remember in an earlier lesson, we talked about the 1940s through the 1970s, and how things no one talked about in public slowly became normal. Homosexuality has been around since almost the very beginning of time. It has risen and fallen. Take Sodom and Gomorrah for example. Those two cities were destroyed because of lust. How many families today are destroyed because of lust, whether due to adultery, drugs and drinking, gambling, anger, violence, murder, devil worship, etc.
I want you to place a check mark next to the things that are happening in your home today. TODAY, not what you want it to be, but how things really are.
- Anger issues.
- Verbal abuse.
- Substance abuse.
- Abortions.
- Premarital sex.
- Swearing and obscenities.
- Greed.
- Worry.
- Horror movies.
- Stealing.
- Yelling and screaming.
- Occult practices, witchcraft, Ouija boards, Tarot cards, dream catchers, mediums, palm reading, horoscope reading, satanic alters, seances.
- Rebellion.
- Gossip and slander.
- Soft or hard pornography.
- Homosexuality
- Lust for money.
- Senseless arguments.
- Words of encouragement and grace.
- Self-sacrifice.
- Peace and harmony.
- Servant attitude.
- Honour for parents.
- No favoritism.
- Working together.
- Forgiveness.
- Treating others better than yourself. Putting others first.
- Joy, peace, and cheerfulness.
- Patience, kindness, and virtue.
- A genuine love for one another.
- Trust among the members of the household.
I grew up in the first set of checkmarks. I had a Ouija board, read books on angel worship and dream interpretations. My house was constantly charged with hatred, anger, lust, and alcohol. Words were cheaply given and received. There was no honour among the family members. I thought partying all weekend, getting drunk and swearing were all normal, and families who didn’t participate in this kind of thing were missing out on all the fun.
Today, I value my peaceful home. It has taken years of ridding myself of those harmful beliefs that have had center stage in my heart and life. I moved from one bad relationship to another to another, always hoping it would get better, but it never did. I did what I knew to do, and that was just be ‘normal’. My normal wasn’t a good normal, but harmful, degrading, devaluing myself.
I learned, what I thought about, what I seek after, I will find. I needed to be intent on what I wanted. I needed to practice what I wanted. I needed to be willing to let go what was pulling me back into living that ‘normal’ life. I needed to remove everything, I mean everything that was lustful, evil, part of the old life. This included photographs, books, videos, music, letters, coffee cups, people, relationships, games, altars, anything that brought back cravings for the old life. The hardest thing I have had to deal with is seeing how my mistakes and my wrong thought processes have harmed my now adult children. However, even those bad thoughts need to be put down, and not allowed to penetrate my heart and mind.
What you seek you will find. What you think about, you bring about. What you sow you will reap.
What your children see, they will think is normal. Not all children will follow in their parents’ footsteps, but all children will have to deal with what they saw, felt, and received as children. The signpost, “my parents did the best they could,” needs to be ripped down. You as an adult you need to deal with what you received as a child and become better so you don’t pass on the false statement, I did the best I could for my children. Are you really doing the best for your children, or can you do much better? That is the question. When your children turn 18, you are still the parent. When your children are having babies, you are still the parent. When your children turn 65, you are still the parent. You don’t stop being a parent because your children graduate high school.
What do horror movies have to do with anything? It promotes fear, anxiety, and a heightened desire to seek evil. The more you see and view something evil, the more deadened you become from putting it down, not handling it, but instead you seek more of it, because it intrigues, or inspires you. That awareness you feel, when shocked by fear, can become a craving, and cravings need to be fed. Remember, what you think about, you bring about.
Foul language is just that, foul. It is meant to be demeaning, to cause rejection, sorrow, and depression. If this is your so called, “go to” language, stop it. Don’t think for a moment it doesn’t hurt people. Don’t think it is not going to harm you either. You reap what you sow. If you use foul language, why do you complain when someone uses it on you to hurt you?
Don’t steal anything, not even a pen at work. Don’t lie, don’t seek after the dead, don’t read historical romance novels, (they promote lust and distort true romance), don’t go to movies that promote death and gore, don’t fester hate, and don’t gossip. Concern for someone doesn’t mean going and telling everyone to pray for someone because this happened to them. That is gossip hidden in a false concern.
My neighbour feels it necessary to tell us everything. Things we have no interest in knowing, and really shouldn’t know. It is one thing to tell us about herself, but she has to tell us what is going on in her children’s lives, good, bad or ugly, and her relationship with her ex-husband. That is none of our business. We try to walk away, but she follows us. Keep your family life private. Yes, you may need to talk to someone about your children, to seek advice, but choose wisely, because otherwise everyone will know and start talking, and words affect people’s lives. And you yourself don’t spend your time spreading confidential conversations, even if you know something about your daughter’s friend or your son’s buddy.
Remember to prepare, be in Season, out of SEASON.
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